Choice is a very powerful word and a very powerful resource to have.
When you have choice then you have the illusion that you also have control, in whatever form that may be meaning that you are doing, saying, thinking, and feeling something because that’s what you want to do.
Having choice is empowering.
If you want others to do as you wish, creating choice is imperative for them to go along with your wishes. Nobody likes to be told what to do but all of us choosing what to do.
An example of this would be instead of saying ‘I want that report by midday, no later’ you could say ‘ I’m happy to receive your report at noon either in print form or by email’ You see you get the result of the report by midday/noon as required and the other person gets the illusion of choice. Win! Win!
Choice also allows you to be responsible for yourself, your life and everything in it, it allows you to make informed decisions and take action.
When people become despondent, depressed or generally unhappy in life it is usually linked to their feeling that they have none or limited choice in their current life or future life path. This of course is not true, however sometimes we do not like the choices that we are faced with either!
With choice comes responsibility and if you feel that life’s not what you thought it was going to be then you have a choice to CHANGE.
Firstly, you need to start at the BEGINNING, what exactly is it that you want to change? What do you need to do to start making change happen? Do you need any further resources or do you already have what you require?
Make a plan, set a future goal and start making new steps every day that will get you closer to the future you want. Small, consistent steps will get you where you want to be.
Remember though that MODERATION is the unsung key to success, there is no need to go full speed ahead, blinkers on, foot down, and full throttle to get your outcome. Make small consistent actions on a daily basis, also take time out to enjoy the journey.
FOCUS on what is important and don’t sweat the small stuff! If there are job or actions required that don’t fall into your skillset – outsource them to someone who loves doing those specific things and concentrate on the things that set you alight and make you feel that you’re in flow and on the right path.
There is choice in everything we experience, sometimes we will make the best choices and sometimes on reflection, we may not.
For every choice there is a consequence and at times neither choice we are faced with will seem a preferred option, but remember this with every choice taken comes learning and wisdom, you’ll either repeat the process again or you won’t, either way that knowledge will be invaluable.
With choice comes change and without change, we would not have any butterflies!